If someone tells you they have experienced sexual assault, your response matters. You do not need to be an expert to help. You just need to be kind, patient, and respectful. This Sexual Assault Awareness Month (#SAAM), learn how you can build a community of support.
Start by listening. Let them speak at their own pace. Try not to interrupt or ask lots of questions. You can say, “I’m here with you,” or “Thank you for trusting me.” These words show care and support.
Avoid blaming language. Do not ask what they were wearing or why they were there. Sexual assault is never the survivor’s fault. Responsibility always belongs to the person who caused harm.
Respect boundaries. Some survivors want advice. Others just want to be heard. Ask what they need. You might say, “How can I support you right now?”
Offer help without pressure. This might include finding resources, going with them to an appointment, or helping with daily tasks. Let them choose what feels right.
Supporting a survivor can be emotional. It is okay to seek guidance for yourself, too. When we show empathy and respect, we help survivors feel less alone. Small acts of support can have a powerful impact. Remember that SARCC advocates are allies in the healing process. We can help support significant others, friends, and family members for survivors too. Contact NSARCC advocate by calling our 24 hour hotline at 570–6 28–2965 or 717–272–5308.
Remember, this #SAAM, we are going to start by believing and commit to learning how we can help. Keep a lookout for the Clothesline Project, Teal Lights On initiative, and SARCC Champions who are going to help us spread the word!
